Your safety is our priority. Follow these guidelines to have safe, enjoyable coffee dates.
Meeting new people is exciting, but it's important to stay smart and stay safe. Whether it's your first date or your fiftieth, these tips will help you protect yourself and enjoy every cup. Trust your instincts -- if something feels off, it probably is.
Spend time chatting in the app before meeting in person. Ask questions, pay attention to consistency in their answers, and look for red flags like pressure to meet immediately or share personal details too quickly.
Don't share your home address, workplace, phone number, or financial information with someone you haven't met. Use the in-app chat instead of giving out your personal number early on.
Look for the blue badge (phone verified) and gold badge (photo verified) on profiles. These show completed verification steps, not a background check or guarantee of identity.
A quick search online can reveal a lot. Look for social media profiles that match what they've told you. Inconsistencies between their profile and what you find are worth paying attention to.
Always choose a public cafe or coffee shop for your date. Our date booking feature suggests popular, well-trafficked locations -- use them. Avoid meeting at private residences, especially on a first date.
Let a friend or family member know where you're going, who you're meeting, and when you expect to be back. Share your date details -- the cafe name, time, and your date's profile info -- with someone you trust.
Drive yourself, take a rideshare, or use public transit. Having your own way to leave gives you full control over when and how you exit the situation if you need to.
Keep a clear head, especially on a first meeting. Watch your drink, don't leave it unattended, and be mindful of your surroundings. A coffee date is a perfect low-key setting for exactly this reason.
For first dates, daytime meetups at coffee shops are ideal. You're in a well-lit, busy environment, and the casual setting takes pressure off both of you.
If something doesn't feel right, it's okay to leave. You don't owe anyone an explanation. A polite "I need to go" is perfectly fine. Your safety always comes first.
Communicate your boundaries clearly and respect theirs. A good match will understand and appreciate clear communication. Anyone who pushes back on reasonable boundaries is showing you who they are.
Don't leave your phone, wallet, or bag unattended. Keep your valuables with you at all times, even during a quick trip to the restroom.
Arrange with a friend to text or call you at a specific time during the date. This gives you a natural exit if needed, and someone is actively checking on your safety.
Be cautious of people who profess strong feelings very quickly, ask for money or financial help, try to move the conversation off-app immediately, or have profiles that seem too good to be true with only professional-looking photos.
No matter how compelling the story, never send money or gift cards to someone you've met on a dating app. Legitimate romantic interests will never ask you for financial assistance before meeting in person.
Never share your bank details, Social Security number, credit card information, or login credentials with anyone you've met through the app. No genuine connection requires access to your finances.
Think twice before sharing intimate photos. Once shared, you lose control over them. Anyone pressuring you for explicit images doesn't have your best interests in mind.
If someone makes you uncomfortable, sends inappropriate content, or behaves suspiciously, use the in-app report feature. Our team reviews every report and takes action to keep the community safe.
You can block any user at any time. Blocking is immediate, removes the match, and prevents future contact. Don't feel guilty about using it -- it's there for your protection.
Our accountability system tracks cancellations and no-shows. If a date doesn't show up or behaves inappropriately, report it. Repeated offenders face bean penalties and temporary lockouts.